4 Surprising Relationship Myths

Arguing ruins relationships. Well, not exactly. What really ruins relationships is not resolving your issues. Fights can be really healthy and an important form of communication and clearing the air. The type of arguments couples have make a big difference. If they are condescending or unfair, they don’t resolve anything and leave the couple resentful towards each other. Productive conflicts help the couple understand each other and lead to reaching agreement.

In order to have a successful relationship you have to change the other person. Unfortunately, you cannot change anyone else, you can only change yourself. In fact, we sometimes play the blame game and believe that someone else needs to change. Rather than fall into that trap, figure out how you can be a better partner and do your best to improve a situation. If you want things to change, you have to change.

Passion will never fade. Eventually, passion does fade. Daily life, growing responsibilities, and sometimes a dull routine can quickly dampen passion. The good part is that passion does not have to disappear. Some planning, forethought and sense of humour can sustain intimacy, adventure and passion. It just takes willingness and imagination.

Jealousy shows true love and caring. Sadly, jealousy is more a demonstration of insecurity and a lack of confidence in oneself and the relationship than a demonstration of love and caring. In such cases the partner must work on his/her own insecurity issues. While you can be supportive and encouraging, a jealous partner must deal with the root cause and reasons for their jealousy, especially when it’s unfounded.

Ultimately a successful relationship consists of mutual respect, consideration and sensitivity.