how to stop hating yourself and snap out of self pity

Most of the time, we allow ourselves to wallow in self pity because we have encountered numerous failures in a short period of time but it’s just not appropriate and we should stop doing this, right now. We should abandon the desire to be perfect because frankly, perfection does not exist. We should also remember that we cannot love ourselves 100% of the time and that disappointments will come and yes, they will go.

Here are steps to start feeling better about yourself;

• Be better/Do better

You should do better at loving yourself. There are a few ways you can stop self-pity and see yourself in a whole new light. Try these and stop hating yourself.

• Try saying “No”

The reason why we have such a problem with saying “no” is because we hate to let other people down. We want to always please others and this is because we care about how they think. When we learn to say “no”, it means we have finally developed the strength to speak honestly with no fear of how we’re being seen by others.

• Expose your dark side

Here’s another way to stop that self-pity right away. You need to expose your dark side, and what I mean about that is to expose your less-than-savory aspects of yourself. Showing your human side to others and exposing your imperfections, you will have nothing left to hate, so then you can be happier about yourself.

• Forgiveness

Our past could be full of indiscretions that we wish to hold onto and beat ourselves over the head with, but we just cannot continue to do that. Forgiveness gives us the reason to carry on and do better in our lives. Unforgiveness has not only caused many of us to drown in pity but also puts a strain on relationships and affects our health. Once you have found the strength to forgive yourself, you will begin to rebuild a healthy image.

• Stop trying to figure it out!

Now, you might hate yourself and then, at times, you could have a lofty image of who you are. Look, the truth is, neither of these images is true. You are not special and you are not vile, you are simply a human being. Also, it’s impossible to really see yourself as the world does, so it’s pointless to hate yourself.

Just relax. Why not accept who you are and enjoy life. The right people will like you and you won’t even have to try to get their attention. Take a nap, watch a movie or read a book, and don’t worry about what others think.

• Stop hating yourself and dwell in love instead

Hating yourself will never solve anything, and it will drag you down more and more until you have become hopeless and bitter. Be real with yourself, be honest, and most of all, love yourself.