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How to give meaningful compliments
Most of us issue compliments and most of us want to give meaningful compliments that leave an impression. Often it’s simply a matter of simplicity and intent. We rush our words and “rehearse them ” instead of allowing the compliment to organically emerge.
To help revive this, here are five ways to help you give meaningful compliments:
- Be Specific
Detail is the lifeblood of good writing. It’s also the heart of a great compliment. Hone in on a specific achievement or aspect and focus your words on that. A vague, generalized comment that can be recycled throughout the day lacks real meaning because of its cookie-cutter nature. Seize an opportunity that indicates you paid attention or that the recipient’s presence or actions have made a meaningful impact on you. Specific compliments have lasting power.
- Be Genuine
Meaning what you say is, well, inherent to a meaningful compliment. With a little skill you can make a platitude seem specific enough to soothe the recipient. Despite your knack for false sincerity, most people can tell when your words are not genuine. That’s why you should not force a compliment because it somehow seems like the time or place to offer one. Sincerity is a byproduct of genuine belief or emotion. To toss up a compliment because of social convention or circumstance is to speak without real meaning.
- Be Patient
Giving the perfect compliment is also about waiting for the perfect moment. One thing you should avoid is trying to manufacture that moment that is inherently selfish and makes the giving more about you than the recipient. Strive to strike a balance, focusing on the needs and timing of the recipient.
- Be Succinct
It’s easy to start rambling when you say something nice about someone. Don’t linger around looking for a “thank you” or feel the need to repeat yourself or venture beyond the confines of the compliment. This is especially true if you are moved to compliment a stranger, breeze in, offer your heartfelt words and jump right back into life ongoing.
- Be Yourself
You don’t need to assume some new persona to start dishing out compliments to co-workers and random people. Possessing a degree of self-confidence is key to delivering meaningful compliments. Learning how to give these types of compliments will also make you a better and more appreciative recipient when the time comes to receive them.
