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10 things unhappy people do
Happiness is a great feeling that we all love to experience, and learning how to be happy is possible.We all want to be happy. That’s what drives us to do most things we do. But with modern life it’s easy to be distracted. We can spend too much time chasing money and success, and too little on the things that REALLY matter. Happiness that lasts is earned through your habits. Very happy people have honed habits that maintain their happiness day in, day out but here are some common bad habits of unhappy people.
- Talk to yourself negatively.
We all meet challenges in life. Unhappy people use them as an opportunity to put themselves down. They say things like “I can’t”; and “I’m not good enough”. This can create a cycle of negativity. The more you put yourself down, the lower you feel. The lower you feel, the more you put yourself down. Talking to yourself in this way will never make you happy. Be positive about yourself and your abilities. We all have limits. Focus on what you can do.
- Expect everything to go your way.
When things “go wrong”, unhappy people experience severe negative emotions. These are usually accompanied by a dose of negative self talk, like “Nothing ever goes right for me.” or “Life’s not fair.” To get the best out of life you must learn to make the best of what’s in front of you. Never give up, you must keep fighting no matter what you are up against.
- Hold grudges.
When someone wrongs you, it can feel bad. What feels worse is holding a grudge and feeling bad for months or years. Learn to forgive. It is best for your health and happiness.
- Forget to play.
You need time to enjoy yourself if you want to be happy. Make it a priority to have fun every day. Not only will this raise your happiness levels, it will help you better deal with your responsibilities.
- Try to please others too much.
Unhappy people try to please others so much they can forget to please themselves. Of course we want people to be happy with us, but not at the cost of our own happiness. Sometimes you have to make decisions for your benefit. If people around you cannot appreciate that, then they are toxic to have around you.
- Don’t take risks.
Unhappy people rarely take risks. They are scared of what could go wrong. What is really scary is spending your life never trying anything new or different. All the good stuff in life demands an element of risk. Embrace change and accept that things might not go to plan. There’s nothing more awakening than taking risks and trying new things. You also gain valuable life experience no matter what happens.
- Don’t follow their heart.
Unhappy people make life-changing decisions based on logical thinking. As a result they can be stuck in jobs and relationships that cause them unhappiness. Strive to live the life you know in your heart you REALLY want to lead.
- Blame others.
Unhappy people have a helpless attitude that everything is someone else’s fault. They might blame their partner, parents and children for their lives. If you take responsibility for your own life, you will be in a better position to make changes and improve it.
- Don’t live in the “now”.
Unhappy people rarely live in the moment. They dwell on negative past experiences, reliving those awful feelings again. You can only be truly happy when you are in the present moment. The simplest of things can make you happy when you are in the moment.
- Take life too seriously.
Unhappy people often take everything seriously. This can make the smallest things cause distress. Learn to laugh when things go wrong and always aim to see the bright side of life.
