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Who you are is enough
“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” – Oscar Wilde
Most of us walk through the world with the sole agenda of proving our self-worth and purpose for being on this earth. Where we all run into problems with issues around self-worth and value is when we attach our sense of self to what we do and how well we do it. We incessantly compare ourselves to everyone else, which leads to feeling less than.
YOU ARE JUST ENOUGH! and you have no reasons to prove anything to anyone.
Here are 5 reasons why you have nothing to prove to anybody.
- Your standards are all that matter
Stop using others as a yardstick for what and who you need to be. Set your own standards for yourself, and if those are too high then check in with yourself about how you developed these unreachable ideas about yourself in the first place. The greatest, most successful, most powerful and influential individuals who have ever walked the earth lived in realities of their own creation. They not only played by their own rules, they made the rest of the world play by theirs as well. Having realistic and attainable standards for who you are and how you want to walk through this world will keep you grounded in your own authentic worthiness.
- External validation is fleeting
It feels good to get an affirmation from someone you respect or admire. No doubt that this is a good thing for anyone. However, this kind of validation is fleeting simply because it is not yours to own. It’s on borrowed time, and if you don’t do your own work on owning your own value this goodness will slip away. You want to hold this part of yourself sacred so it’s always available when you need it.
- You can never please everyone
You can’t do it. You can try and fail miserably. Some people simply cannot be pleased no matter what you do. They would not be pleased because they either just don’t like you or they just don’t like your work. They may not even have a specific reason they can pinpoint. Most people aren’t very logical. Know that your honorable acts of seeking approval will be futile with a few if not many.
- You are good enough
You don’t have to be perfect or more than, you just need to be good enough. Good enough has to be determined by you, and you alone. Striving to be perfect or more than you need to be will exhaust you and ultimately leave you feeling defeated because it’s unsustainable.
- Inadequacy is an internal experience
Recognize that your feelings of not being enough or needing to prove your worth are inside of you. You may experience the feeling when you are around other people, but it’s most likely a projection of your own internal struggle. Work on this in therapy or with a trusted mentor because feeling valued and worthy completely starts within.
