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how to model successful people to your own advantage
Modeling helps you to duplicate extraordinary results of high achievers by mirroring their conscious and unconscious behavior. The main principle and idea behind modeling is that if you overtake the behaviors, strategies, beliefs and other traits of successful people, you will also become more successful. Modeling is successful when you manage to achieve more or less the same behavioral outcome as the person you are modeling. You achieve that by mirroring the main contributors to the success. If you are going to model anyway, make sure you are modeling the right kind of people. See how to use modeling to your advantage:
- Read biographies of successful people to get inspired when you feel down.
- Never put your ego in front of learning something new, there is always something to learn or model from other people. Find that one thing in which the person is better than you are.
- Spend time with people who have personality traits and skills you want to develop. Make sure you are never the smartest person in the room. You will slowly assimilate their characteristics. And you will learn the most when you spend time with smart people.
- Study people you admire. Read their biographies, interviews and other articles. Read and watch everything that exists about them. Ask yourself: what would [an extremely successful person] do in the same situation as you are facing?
- Find a person who has achieved exactly the same thing as you want to achieve. Ask them to coach you and based on regular interactions, build yourself a model of how you can apply their behavior in your life to become more successful.
- Model your previous successful self. There are times when you are feeling up and there are times when you are feeling desperate. Just thinking about your thoughts, beliefs, actions and decisions when you were feeling assertive and ambitious can motivate you to take action.
Questions to ask successful people worth modeling
You can accelerate your learning and model building with the right questions. These questions are also very useful when it comes to practicing empathy or developing new perspectives. Also, they can also help you better understand yourself. See a few type of questions to use when you are modeling successful people;
Purpose, identity, beliefs and values
How do you see yourself? What do you believe about yourself when you perform a specific action?
What is driving you to do this, what is your mission, vision or why do you do it?
What do you believe about yourself, the world and your life circumstances
What kind of expectations do you have towards yourself and others?
What kind of standards do you follow?
What rules do you tend to live by and why are these rules important to you?
How do you respond when things don’t go as you planned?
Habits and patterns
What patterns do you easily recognize and why are these patterns important to you?
What do you do when things go wrong or when you experience severe negative emotions?
Which are your dominant personality traits and what strengths do you have?
What kind of habits do you follow on a daily basis? What kind of activities do you not do at all?
Competences – skills and knowledge
What kind of skills have you mastered and how are these skills helping you in life?
What skill helped you the most in achieving that particular outcome?
If you were going to teach me to do it, how should I approach it? What would you ask me to do?
Environment
In which places do you spend the most of your time? With which people?
How do you acquire the knowledge and information that you need in order to be successful?
Do you have any role models that you tend to model?
