8 positive ways to handle negative people

For many people, our natural inclination when dealing with a negative person is to find an escape route or lash out. However, this is not always the best way to handle the situation. See 8 positive ways to deal with negative people

1. Understand their behavior is not personal

Personality traits are hardwired into a person’s brain. The unfolding of events that created their negative state has changed the person. Understanding that there is nothing personal about their negative behavior allows us to approach the situation with a bit more empathy.

2. Lend an ear

By no means are you obligated to act as a confidante to a negative person. That said, a few of us possess both people skills and a profound sense of empathy to help. So, if you can honestly and confidently say you are up to the challenge, then lend an ear and a voice to someone who may desperately need one.

3. Understand your triggers

We could sit here are preach all day and night about the importance of empathy, understanding, and a bunch of other nice personality traits. However, not everyone possesses this kind of mindset or personality. It’s much better to understand your triggers and simply walk away. You are not contributing to their misery, and probably saving yourself from some by not getting involved.

4. Look for something positive

Look for something positive amongst all the negative. It may just shift your perspective of the person.

5. Be nice

Not understanding the reasons behind their perceived negativity, we cannot possibly attempt to rationalize it. However, if someone feels rejected, isolated, or betrayed, a simple act of kindness – a quick smile or a hello may be enough to brighten their disposition a little.

6. Offer constructive feedback

Providing constructive feedback is often high-risk, high-reward. Some people are genuinely oblivious to the fact that their disposition affects others around them, and need to be made aware of this. Should you possess the courage and willingness, there is no shame in having a civil, honest, polite discourse with that person.

7. Act confident, natural and positive

This is an indirect way of showing a “negative” person that a positive attitude is possible and has many benefits. Be authentic and true to both yourself and others around you, including the negative types. Sometimes, a person with a negative mindset will make a critical or skeptical comment about your behavior. No need to react on impulse and lash out. Explain your attitude and outlook, and why they are important to you.

8. Know your capabilities

We all have different skills, and this includes our ability to interact with people. Our attitudes are different; our temperaments are different, our view of the world and others is different. Honestly ask yourself if you are willing to help someone in a negative state and be honest about your abilities to do so.