Why do we find it easier to give ourselves negative messages rather than positive? Most of the time, it is because we believe what we are saying. If we repeat an idea over and over, we begin to accept it as valid. Whether the idea is negative or positive, we absorb it and it becomes real to us.
What do you have to lose by thinking good thoughts about who you are? How you think shapes your world far more than you may have ever imagined. Here are five ideas none of us needs because they only drain our energy.
- I am not good enough
Just by virtue that you exist, you are a vital and unique part of this life we all share. You are inherently worthy. When the impulse comes to tell yourself twenty times a day that you’re not good enough, say instead, twenty times a day, “I am worthy.”
- They are better than me, more intelligent, more this or that
We can fool ourselves with this one a lot. We see what other people do and feel there is plenty of evidence we don’t have their talent and skill. But who says we have to be like them? We each have a talent, uniquely our own, and we always know what that is because we love doing it. There is not a set of talents or skills we have to fill, we are meant to find our own, and give to that our best self.
- I am not likable or lovable
This is a big one. It explains a lot of things that go wrong for us. Believing it is actually believing in an illusion, and we repeat it way too often. It is also the hardest idea to shift. There is only one way. Dare to say instead, whether you believe it or not at first, “I love who I am.”
- I can’t succeed
Our society pushes the idea that success is being first at something, and that it is accompanied by financial reward. Success in its essence is a feeling of achievement that arises whenever we do something well – it doesn’t matter what that is, small or large. Say instead, “I do succeed.”
- I am powerless
In truth, what this means is that we have decided to relinquish our own personal power and give it away, usually to a person or to a situation. We can live years believing that we cannot alter outcomes. We let go of our own sense of self, and let others define us. Just say instead, “I take back my personal power.”