‘Raise your boys well’ – Simi talks on the differences in raising male and female children

Nigerian singer, Simisola reveals the perception of society in raising male and female children as she stresses that both sexes should be raised well.

Simisola Kosoko, better known by her stage name Simi, is a Nigerian singer, songwriter, and actress. The singer shared a post on her Instagram story, saying that many parents of the past generation raise their girls and let the boys raise themselves, hence the reason why they think it’s easier to raise male children.

Simi added that when a boy makes mistakes in life, society refers to the popular cliche that ‘Boy will be Boys’. However, if a girl child makes such a mistake, society will tag the girl child as wayward, so parents put more effort into raising girls. The mother of one also stated the girl child is taught to be a good wife, good mother, prudent, enduring, faithful, and whatever the society’s version of perfect is while the male child is taught to make money and provide.

She wrote;

“Many of our parents raised their girls and let the boys raise themselves. This is why lots of people think boys are easier to raise. If their boys’ fumble, they say ‘boys will be boys. If the girls fumble the exact same fumble, they say she’s wayward or she wasn’t raised right.

Hence, more effort is put into raising girls. She is taught to be a good wife, a good mom, prudent, enduring, faithful, perfect, or whatever society’s version of perfect is.

Men are taught to make money and provide. The pressure to make good decisions is more intense for women. Men are usually able to make whatever choices or mistakes and to take more risks because society will excuse them because ‘boys will be boys. This is a privilege.

I do think the tide is changing a little with our generation. More women are realising they are more than what society expects. I love it for us.

Raise your boys well. Teach them to be good people, raise your girls well teach them to be strong and to be more. Everyone is equally capable of fucking up or of doing the right thing.”

See her post below;

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