My husband wants to kill me with sex — Young Wife cries out in court

A young 32-year-old businesswoman, Adenike Bolarinwa, has urged an Agege Customary Court, Lagos, to dissolve her eight-year-old loveless marriage, citing sexual harassment and constant battering.

Adenike, an indigene of Abeokuta, Ogun, told the court on Friday there was no more love between her and the husband, Abiola Bolarinwa. The mother of two, who resides at Obawole, Okeira in Aguda-Ogba area of Lagos, said: “My husband constantly beats me and no longer cares for me and our children.’’

The woman, who described her husband as irresponsible, said he often demanded sex amid harassment and blackmail. “He calls me unprintable names in the presence of the children. “My husband often makes uncomplimentary utterances about me while forcefully having sex with me; he calls me a harlot,” she said.

The petitioner accused her husband of threatening her life, adding that he had turned her into a punching bag. “I had to run away from the house when it became unbearable. “There was a time my husband beat me severely and l was in coma for three days and admitted in the hospital for weeks. “He is irresponsible, I want the court to separate us as I am no longer interested in the union.’’ She asked the court to grant the custody of their children to her.

The News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) reports that the woman was fighting back tears in his passionate plea to the court to dissolve the marriage. “I want to live comfortably and in peace.” The respondent, Abiola, a surveyor, however, denied the allegations, describing his wife as wayward and arrogant. “My wife is stubborn, rude and has no respect for me as her husband.’’ The 38-year-old husband, however, told the court: “I still love her; I do not want the marriage dissolved. “l promise to resolve whatever disagreement and conflicts we are facing.” The court’s President, Mrs Ibironke Elabor, who advised the estranged couple to keep the peace, adjourned the case until March 1 for the Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) to take over the case.