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how to be the most charming person in any group
The deepest human need is the desire to feel important. When you go through life building self-confidence and making other people feel important and valuable, they will like you, welcome you, and open every door for you. This is the secret to learning how to be popular both professionally and personally. In your personal, family and social life, learning to be more charming will make you more popular, desirable, influential and persuasive than any other quality.
So how do you become a genuinely charming person?
- Smile in Every Interaction
Each person has a deep-down need to be accepted unconditionally by other people, without judgment or criticism. How? Just smile. An open, honest smile warms people’s hearts, makes them feel important, and causes them unconsciously to like you from the first moment.
- Say “Thank You” Often
Everyone loves to be appreciated for something, anything they have done for someone else. Being appreciated is one of those things that really motivates us, both at work and in life, so a little goes a long way if you can offer up a genuine thank you when it’s appropriate. When you say the magic words “Thank you” early and often, you make people feel important and happy, raise their self-esteem and increase their desire to help you and do things for you.
- Give Genuine Compliments
Whenever you admire the possessions, traits or accomplishments of others, they automatically feel more important and valuable. Admire people’s choices in clothing, hairstyles, cars etc. Admire their homes or apartments. Admire their degrees or certificates. Whenever you compliment a person on something he or she has obviously invested time and emotion in achieving, you boost their self-image and build high self-esteem.
- Give Praise and Approval Often
Give praise and approval generously, for both small and large accomplishments. Being praised makes the recipient feel good about themselves and this provides the kind of positive experience that can increase one’s morale, motivation etc.Whenever anyone does anything worthwhile, tell them how good they are, and what a fine job they’ve done, building self-confidence and high self-esteem. When you praise people around you, you make them feel more important, and cause them to see you as “charming.”
- Give Them Your Full Attention
People feel valuable and important to the degree to which they are listened to and respected. Whenever you listen closely to another person when he is talking, his self-esteem goes up. You always “pay value” to a person by listening attentively, by hanging on every word. When you do, he or she warms up to you and begins to find you “charming.”
Go through life looking for little opportunities to make people feel valuable and special. Smile at them as if you are glad to see them. Thank them regularly. Compliment them sincerely. Praise them lavishly. And listen to them when they speak building self-confidence and promoting high self-esteem.
