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What to do if you have a bad starting point

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You have the personal power to change the course of your life. You can change a negative spiral into a positive one. It’s not easy, but it can be done. At the end of the day, you can come out of difficult situations much smarter, stronger, wiser and with a much bigger capacity for creating value and making the world a better place to live because you understand the good as well as bad situations in life.

How hard it is to reach that tipping point in your life depends on your starting point and the leverages available to you. The better the starting point and the more leverages you have at your disposal, the faster your progress and the sooner the concentration can take place.

The worse the starting point, the more you have to play life in the hard mode and the greater your goals, the smarter and harder you have to work. You somehow also have to make up for starting behind others.

The good news is that easy times very much soften people up, while on the other hand tougher situations can build up your character. A tougher situation can really develop your character if you keep fighting and never give up.

Here are some ideas for what to do if you want to be really successful and your starting point was not so good:

  1. Excel at something

However unfair life may be, life gave us all talents and gifts. That’s quite fair. You have to find your talents and develop them. They are not something that you discover and soon afterwards, your life becomes a success story. There are no shortcuts to a successful life.

Developing your talents to the point where you really excel at something is the best way to start turning a downwards spiral upwards. Because if you excel at something, people attribute you better qualities and assume that you are good at other things as well. Thus you are exposed to more opportunities. Alos, exceling at something has a good positive influence on your self-confidence and all other areas of life. Basically success starts bringing success.

Therefore the first thing to do is to find you talents and start exceling at something. It may even take you a few years to excel at something, but it doesn’t matter. Focus yourself and start building up your character and skills. Level up your game. You should also very carefully consider where you will apply your talents.

 

  1. Start with small wins

A person who wins one challenge has a greater probability of winning the next one. A win leads to better self-confidence and higher motivation as well as to better readiness for the next challenge. It’s better to win small ten times than to lose big one time. Thus you have to be aware of your bad starting point and not try to compete with people who have a much better starting point right at the very beginning. You have to be smarter than that and make progress step by step. Your wins will start to accumulate and over the years you will be able to catch up to most other people who had had a better starting point.

  1. Increase your chances of getting lucky

You have to be very assertive when increasing your chances of getting lucky. The more targets you want to hit, the more shooting you will have to do. Keep developing your inner resources, build up your personal brand, network as much as possible, leverage social networks, expose yourself, stand for something, integrate yourself into the community of successful people, and so on.

There are points where talented people, information, resources, technology, good energy and the right values are concentrated. It’s the same in all other areas of life. You have clubs, associations and institutes for nearly everything, from business to hobbies. You want to put yourself in the centre of such hubs and then start shooting for your first wins. While doing that, you have to remember that marketing is everything and that whatever you’re doing in life, whatever your goals are, good sales and marketing will always accelerate your way to success.

Under the condition that the product you are selling (you) is the real deal. Otherwise marketing can kill you really fast. You may fake it and not eventually make it.

 

  1. Get to know yourself and get rid of negative behavioral patterns

An important part of getting to know yourself is identifying your negative behavioral patterns. If you were not brought up in a loving, supportive environment, you probably have many destructive negative behavioral patterns such as negative thinking, fear of criticism and disapproval etc. The bad environment you were brought up in results in bad behavioral patterns which then further result in bad life situations, thus you want to deal with your inner negative psychological state.

Read personal development books, schedule a consultation with a cognitive therapist, identify your negative behavioral patterns and start working on them.

 

  1. Start changing your environment

At some point in life, you have to start creating an environment that supports you. You have to work hard on your personal development and your subconscious tendencies. You need to build your first mutually supportive relationship, learn how to handle that kind of positive relationships and then work further on the next one and the one after that. That is how you change the spiral. It may take you years to completely change your environment, but that is the only way if you want to make positive changes in your life. Actively construct your environment step by step and make it as supportive as possible.

 

 

 

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