4 Things That Will Stop Happening When You quit unhealthy comparisons

Comparing yourself to others is an inevitable evil in life and yet an avoidable one. And, for our own sake, we must avoid it. There’s nothing quite so gutting as having at last found a little confidence in your own talents, attractiveness or individuality, and then stumbling upon a person who seems to be everything you are, just better. But you have to let go. You have to accept it and move on with your life. There’s no point in pining over what was never yours and is never to be yours. Your journey is your own, your experience is unique.

The envy you feel for people can lead to hatred, of both the intruder on your happiness and of yourself for what you feel you lack in comparison. If you start thinking in terms of your own expression of your individuality alone, that which no one else can have, you’ll stop suffering unnecessarily:

See a few things that can stop happening when you stop this unnecessary comparison;

Stop feeling insecure and envious

When you love two things, whether they are similar or totally different, you wouldn’t compare the two, choose the best, and then forsake the other completely. You want the variety. Both are equally valuable to you in their own way. So why should you do that to yourself? Why should you think yourself unworthy because someone else is worthy?

Stop being a pale imitation of someone else

Once you cease to be imprisoned in a world of sideways glances at others and of feeling defeated at every turn, you will start expressing yourself more authentically. You are something unique. The best you can do for yourself is to recognise that. Then you can stop wasting your time thinking about what you lack in comparison to others. Begin to understand what you alone have to offer.

Stop having superficial relationships

We all know that taste, in food, in music, in literature, in art, in lovers, and in friends is a subjective matter. Those who are inclined to like you will like you the better for being yourself. Imitation can sometimes captivate for a short time, but deeper relationships are based on authentic expression of what you really are. Of course, you should try to express the best version of yourself. Never give in to the temptation to be stubbornly stuck in your own ways because you want to be ‘true to yourself’ all the time. Relationships are also maintained by a deep respect for the individuality of others.

Stop being taken in by illusions about others

Even if you are not able to summon up the strength to feel compassion for those you perceive as better than you, you must concede that everyone is suffering in their own way. And even the most seemingly blessed of us suffer from the same feelings of insecurity and incompleteness as the rest.