How to take your life back from everyone else

Most people live their daily lives trying to please others. This is not how you are supposed to live. Soon, this superficial behavior will make you rot from the inside out. It’s toxic. The more you act like someone else, the worse your real self feels. You cannot continue acting like someone else. It will drive you mad.

So how do you change this?

The foundation for unlearning your constant need to be liked and chosen is an environment that nourishes the real you. Many people have settled into environments that are focused entirely on their “false” versions of themselves. Excessive social media, toxic friend groups, and addictive behaviors all bring out the worst parts. Instead, you need to design an environment that removes all this toxic crap, and allows you to be you.

If you want to unlearn your constant need to be liked and chosen, start with the foundation itself — your environment.

• Cut ties with negative people
• Stop going to life-draining places
• Start going to events that make you happy
• Hang out with friends and family you love, who love you
• Stop doing things that make you sad

It’s a good place to start.

Cultivate a Daily Renewal Practice

A daily renewal means is a practice where you take account of how you’re doing in the four main areas of physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health. Anyone can do it. Don’t make this harder than it is. Start small. Do a little journal entry, pray a little prayer, read a short article about something positive. The healthier you make your mind, the less powerful your need for approval will become.

Your Mind Believes What You Tell It

Most people don’t even notice the constant stream of chatter going on in their heads. Much of this chatter is negative. We may think it’s just noise, but our mind believes whatever we tell it.

What do you tell your mind every day?

Do you tell it you’re not good enough? Do you remind it how anxious, stressed, and tense you are?

Most people feed their mind a constant stream of negative, unfocused, toxic orders but they can change the entire blueprint, if they wish. Stop telling your mind lies. Stop focusing on others and focus on yourself. Make a new conversation in your head; one that focuses on positive and uplifting thoughts. This is how to achieve extreme mental clarity, sublime peace, and healthy self-confidence.

Ignoring Everyone Else Isn’t Easy — But It’s Simple

Of course, you want to ignore everyone else’s approval. The problem is actually doing it. Beginning to ignore others and focus entirely on your own progress isn’t easy. But it’s simple, just stay in your lane. It does not matter how much faster they are going. It doesn’t matter how much faster you are going. If you keep looking at other lanes, you are going to crash.

Focus on you. Learn all you can. Experiment, fail, discover what works. Soon, you will build momentum. And one day, you will look around you, and marvel at just how fast you are going. Stay in your lane. Just focus on you. Don’t worry about them, their numbers, their followers, their pictures, their progress, anything. Just focus on your own progress.

Forget about titles and impressing others. Focus on becoming a person you are incredibly proud to be.

You don’t need anyone else to feel “complete” or whole.

You don’t need their approval.

You don’t need them to like you.

You will be OK if people don’t like you.

Your real self is more precious than any approval your false self gains.

Ignore everyone else, and focus on you.