Letting go to Gain more Control

Letting go is simply an alternative to control. Letting go is to leave things or people as they are, letting them be. The less control you feel the more control you actually have. It is only when we relinquish control that we finally gain self mastery. You might think that we are in control of our actions and decisions but you are just the observer. Instead, change and adapt to the reality as it happens then we will have more peace within. There will never be a time in our lives when we are in control of everything. Control does not have to be our truth anymore. It’s the attempts to control that lead us to grasp tightly to people and things. And moving forward is difficult with the heaviness of your past weighing you down. Holding on tightly leaves little room for movement and nothing interferes more than fear and control.

Realize that you are not in control and that nothing is happening on your own accord. If there is a decision or action that has to be made, do it and let go. Letting go means to accept the uncertainty of changing reality. Once you let go, your intuition will take over and you will always make the best decision possible. Just let go and live your life. It allows for you to see clearly so you could make the best decision for yourself.

How do we let go of things?

Redefine what you believe: You can redefine what you believe to be possible. In every moment, there is a chance to let go of whatever is troubling you and feel peaceful. Move in the direction of your purpose or toward that, which feels good. Know that some things may need to be let go and rest assured that new things will emerge.

Take responsibility: Many times when we need to let go, we are focused on what someone else did that was wrong, instead of what we could have done better. Identify what you are learning and develop a path to closure. Remember that self-worth is a function of self-honesty so cultivate it.

Feel it fully: If you disconnect from your feelings, they still exist and will affect everyone around you. Go ahead and rant for a minute or two, not as a way of harming another or as a habit. Channel your discontent into new and positive actions. Before you can let go of any emotion, feel it fully. Cry it out. Work it out through exercise. Laugh it out. Just let it go

Shut it down: Stop listening to the destructive force of your own mind or others. People that keep you in a negative space make it difficult to let those circumstances, conditions and thoughts go. Focus on cultivating the right conditions for your growth. You have three options: remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it. Letting go allows kindness and love to move into the space that was previously occupied by control. Become comfortable with everything new. Newness is change.

Forgive yourself: Begin by forgiving yourself, it is a gift that will change your direction. When we stop blaming others, take responsibility and forgive ourselves, we will be able to let go.