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We have all experienced what it feels like to be disappointed. We have been disappointed in ourselves, others, our job, and just about anything else we can think of. But why do we get disappointed? Reasons for your disappointment may reside in your failure to meet a goal, or, failure of someone else to meet the expectation you placed upon them.

In reality, feeling disappointed has nothing to do with other people, places, or circumstances. The fact is, being disappointed does not actually originate with external sources, even though it might feel like it. It’s internal. When we feel disappointed, we are the actual source of those feelings. it’s a feeling! They are an emotional response that we create. In the case of feeling disappointed, it’s our emotional response to some expectation.

Expectation is the reason we feel disappointed. We get disappointed when things fail to live up to our expectations. We tend to attach expectation to almost everything in life and this means there is a distinct possibility that we could end up being disappointed. Giving up on expectation so we won’t be disappointed is not really a viable option. Much of our excitement and enthusiasm in life comes from eager expectation. We look forward to things when we anticipate a desirable outcome. In the case of a negative expectation, when we are glad when things don’t turn out the way we expected, we feel relieved instead of disappointed.

See three ways on how to avoid feeling disappointed;

 

  1. Accept wider parameters. When our expectations fall within parameters that are too narrow then there is a higher likelihood that we will end up disappointed. Loosening up on your expectations a bit reduces the chance of being disappointed.

 

  1. Live in the moment. Viewing your life as an adventure allows you to enjoy the greatest variety of experiences. You still have the expectation of adventure, but you haven’t tailored it into a preconceived package. Instead, you have left yourself open to just about anything that comes along and your enthusiasm remains high. Life is always a experience, cherish that and you will enjoy the ride.

 

  1. Value learning. There are valuable lessons in every experience we have. Some of our most profound learning comes from situations that did not turn out the way we thought they would. Much of the time we get what we need rather than what we want. If learning and growing is a top priority for us, we will find reasons to appreciate a wide range outcomes and experiences.

 

Being enthusiastic and full of eager anticipation makes life fun and exciting. Learning to love the journey is the best defense against the dark cloud of disappointment.

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