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18 random things to know about personal development

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Actively seeking personal growth during times of difficulty or joy makes the difficult times more bearable and the joyful times more meaningful. Through reflection, reading, self-questioning, and counsel with others, you expand your experience of life and become a more authentic, self-actualized, and compassionate person.

See some random things you should know about personal development to help you on your inner journey:

 

  1. Life is only happening right now.

As much as we live in the past and future, you would think we  would find happiness in one or the other. Both the past and future are illusions. This present moment is the only reality. Rather than wasting real life dwelling in illusion, focus on what you are doing right now and find joy in it.

  1. It’s not what happens, but how you respond to it.

We don’t have much control over certain events in our lives. People hurt or betray us. We go through difficult times. We lose loved ones. Though we may not have power over events, we do have power over ourselves. We can choose to learn and grow from our experiences and to accept them as part of our personal evolution.

 

  1. Change is good.

We spend a lot of time avoiding change because we don’t like the discomfort and uncertainty it creates. But change expands us and helps us realize how much we are capable of. It makes life more interesting and teaches us to be fluid and flexible.

 

  1. Know your personal values.

Everyone needs a personal framework in order to navigate life. Your values are your guiding principles, and you use them to help you make important choices and decisions throughout your life. Without defining your values, you simply react to events rather than creating your life on your own terms.

  1. Cultivate your relationships.

If you have people in your life whom you love and value, make a daily effort to cultivate the relationships. That means spending quality time with them and showing them rather than just telling them that you care.

  1. Accept people as they are.

People you love will disappoint you. They will make choices you wouldn’t make. They will have differing points of view and different priorities in life. Don’t try to control or change them. Accept them as they are and love them for who they are. Trying to change people is a waste of time and emotional energy.

  1. Embrace your flaws.

We spend a lot of time hating ourselves because we are flawed. We don’t like the way we look. We don’t feel smart enough. We make mistakes and have failures. But remember, this is what it means to be human. Being flawed is as much a part of who we are as walking upright. Even as you strive to improve, embrace your flaws and acknowledge it is okay to have them.

  1. Stop struggling.

Because we want our lives to be perfect, we often struggle against anything that doesn’t match with our vision. When you find yourself agitated and pushing back at circumstances, step back and allow life to happen. Sometimes something better than you envisioned is awaiting you.

  1. Have goals, but be flexible.

Setting goals for your life based on your values motivates you to take action and move forward. But remain open to all possibilities even as you work toward your goals. Again, if you find yourself struggling with a goal, step back and see where life is leading you instead.

  1. Spend more on experiences than things.

Rather than spending money on material possessions that bring fleeting happiness, spend on experiences instead, like travel and family events. Do things that create long-lasting memories which will provide good feelings forever.

  1. Seek out the positive.

We are wired to focus more on the negatives of life than the positives. It takes a concerted and disciplined effort to think about what is good and what we feel grateful for. But it is an endeavor well worth the effort. As you train your brain to see the glass half full rather than half empty, you will improve your general feelings of happiness and satisfaction.

  1. Have a vision for your life.

Part of personal growth involves taking responsibility for your life and what you want from it. When you create a vision for your life, you create a mental picture of where you want to be. This allows you to create specific goals and actions to help you move toward the vision

 

  1. Find joy in the process, not just the outcome.

Remember, life is happening in the present moment. If you are working toward a goal, don’t delay your happiness until you reach it. Find the joy in every step along the way. If you are working to learn a new skill or improve yourself, find happiness in practice and effort. Outcomes are fleeting, but you are always in process.

  1. Love yourself first.

You can’t fully love others or love life until you love yourself. By deciding to accept yourself, flaws and all, and being grateful that you are able to have the experience of life. You simply decide to start loving yourself, and then treat yourself lovingly.

  1. Action must follow awareness.

Inner awareness and growth must be followed by outer action. Otherwise, your personal evolution will stall out. You can’t keep it all in your head. You must practice it in daily life.

  1. Improve your confidence.

Confidence is the assurance that you are essentially capable, even if you have had past failures. It is trust in yourself and your abilities. If you don’t have this trust, you can’t take the actions you need to take to improve your life. Begin by improving your confidence. It is a skill that can be learned.

  1. Anger almost always hides pain.

If you feel angry, seek out what is causing you pain. If someone else is angry, assume that they are in pain. This makes room for compassion, for yourself and others

  1. Kindness is always the answer.

When you want to act in frustration, anger, resentment, cruelty, intolerance, or indifference, step back and take a deep breath. Choose kindness instead. Even when someone is unkind to you, be the person you want to be. Kindness is disarming to the unkind and attractive to everyone.

 

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